Have you ever wondered: why is our relationship so difficult? Things were so perfect when we first met - what happened? Most likely, the answer is that it leaves the first stage of your relationship and have moved to another. But was it really that easy?
Yes! Most people understand that relationships grow and change over time ... But what many do not know is that they tend to develop in the same way. There are specific, defined levels of long-termoffering new sensations to face new challenges and new opportunities for growth. And if you want to develop your relationship with mutual respect, love and intimacy, it is likely that you have all of the following levels of relationships at some point or another experience. Take a look at the description of each stage - but this does not sound familiar?
Before you begin, you should know that most people experience these stages in this order, and have the determinationChallenges at each stage before moving on successfully to the next. Of course there are always exceptions to this rule. But for the most part, you can not get to experience all these stages, if you want a healthy and fulfilling lives. Each pair will move through these stages at different speeds, and most people experience each stage more than once - it is usual to vary from one stage to another .*
Okay, now that I have given you the basics, let's diga little 'deeper ....
Step 1 - The Stage Romance
This is also known as the phase of courtship, or the stage of imagination, and can be anywhere from 2 months to 2 years. This is when you and your partner have just met, and everything is absolutely amazing. You can not do without them. None of you can do no wrong in the eyes of others ... especially since both have to show your best side. The emphasis at this stage is on commonalities - you have so many interests in common, youcould almost be the same person! Show your partner your best car ever, and you try to get one another as possible. The conflict is seen as "bad" at this stage, and is to be avoided at all costs. You can not imagine life without this person, so that you begin to spend so much time together as possible. This is the stage when our defenses are ahead of you to be open and can fall in love. You and your partner to build an important basis at this stage,Your relationship can grow. There are biological effects. If you are at this stage, the body produces massive amounts of endorphins, which you feel unusually happy, positive and eager to do everything in your life (feeling that this is "madly in love"!). This is the stage most frequently in movies and romance novels, illustrated, for obvious reasons. Bottom line - you are happier than ever, and can not imagine they feel different.
Level 2 -Disillusionment Stage
This phase is also known as the familiarization phase, or phase to adapt to reality. Here you can see that your partner is actually a man (horror of horrors!) Start. You learn to know each other more and more, and as a result you start recognizing their various flaws and shortcomings. See your partner in relaxed situations, and you become more relaxed as well. Since the body can not continue to produce the same amountsEndorphins, which was in the beginning, they begin to sink these feelings of being on top of the world. Partner's little habits are not quite as cute as they are used, but there is still enough goodwill Romance Stage that you are willing to forget. It can begin at this stage, the relationship slowly, dripping, as a partner for which he / she begins to really see. Or sometimes it happens suddenly, when there was a sort of dishonesty or fraud. This phasecan be confusing and daunting, because you only have so much and experienced the opening scene of the Latin connection. But at this point, your main task is to learn to communicate and resolve conflicts effectively with this person is, which is an important skill if you want to continue your relationship.
Step 3 - The Stage struggle for power
This phase is also known as the phase or stage of delusion distress. Because the features to improve the phase of disillusionment,are more difficult to treat and harder. You will probably start to move away from each other at that stage. At this point, we still believe that the conflict is something "bad", but they are increasingly aware of your many differences. They struggle to draw the boundaries in the relationship, and also because of little annoyances to major issues. This is the stage where it is possible to define unacceptable behavior, and most couples have occasional or frequent thoughts of leaving the relationship. MoreIncreasingly, you start to feel your partner or not self-centered care, or worse, is that they dare not do it. Deep resentments begin to build, if you can not solve your problems in a respectful and mutually acceptable. Many couples are stuck in this stage, since this type of interaction is normal in their relationship. This is when you absolutely must learn to manage your differences effectively - to communicate and work together as a team,But it is tempting to believe that your partner is the sole purpose on this earth to make life difficult. Not surprisingly, this is the stage most couples are breaking in, if they decide to divorce or that. However, if you are able, all mines must be negotiated at this stage, will move to ....
Phase 4 - Phase Stability
This is a quiet and peaceful time, compared to the last stage. This phase is also known as the phase friendship or Reconciliation Stage.Some couples do not do so at this stage, but those who find that their deepest feelings of love, connection and trust their partners. Now you have a history together, and many people begin to rely on the predictability of the relationship. As we enter this phase, you begin to understand that your partner is not perfect, but your personal differences are not as threatening as they are used. Are you able to resolve most of your differences, at least to some extent, andhave more trust in the relationship. Some people feel a sense of loss at this stage, as a partner for what they really learn to accept, as this means going to leave to the imagination, which was founded at the beginning of the relationship. But for most, the deep sense of friendship and commitment to a good compromise for those early feelings of butterflies and excitement. This applies even if you restore your interests and friendships outside startingwere added to the Romanesque period. There is some risk that you will start to move out or bored with your partner at this stage, you should try to keep the connection that was built in the Romanesque period. Overall, this is the stage where it is finally starting to feel comfortable and satisfied with your deepening relationship.
Step 5 - The Stage commitment
This phase is also called the phase of the acceptance period, the transformation phase, or phase of Real Love known. E 'estimated that less than 5% of unmarried couples to make this point, the institute report. This is the stage when both couples have a clear idea of who their partners, have flaws, weaknesses and deficiencies in abundance ... but make a conscious choice to deal with this person in spite of all these things (and in some cases, because these things) are. You are no longer with your partner because you need it, but why did you choose them, which means that the level of resentmentHe felt lost during the struggle for power, if not disappeared. If you have done to this point, you and your partner are a team. You truly love your partner, and look out for their interest just like looking out for your own. Your partner is your best friend. There are some surprises about your partner or habits of character in this phase. They worked together to overcome many challenges together, and must accept each other and support each other, withoutRestriction. Your vision for your relationship is in congruence with who you are and what you really want. Have you discussed your future together - you need to define similar goals in life, and you feel encouraged, you continue the relationship. Many couples choose to establish a formal and public commitment to each other at this stage (eg marriage), their intention to make their relationship even further. This is the stage where your relationship into a genuine partnership.
